This is going to be a brief one.
I don’t care that you just touched and caressed. It still is.
I don’t care that it was just one of you giving and the other receiving. It still is.
I don’t care if neither of you got there, it still is.
I don’t care if you only used your mouth, it still is.
I don’t care if you only used a toy, it still is sex.
I don’t even care if one of you got off without any bodily contact due to some obscure pie-fighting fetish, even then it is still sex. Because it involved intentional manipulation of your partner for pleasure.
And for all of you out there in penis-land wondering how lesbians have sex, maybe I’ve just explained a few things. My god we can be dumb sometimes- this is a thing that even teenagers can learn with their fumbling experiments. That all the bases matter. Because we’re still playing the same ballgame.
So, kindly expand your definition of “sex” beyond penis-in-vagina. Thankyou.